Date Yourself? Seriously?
As you try to improve your relationship with yourself, take a moment now and ask yourself this interesting question: If you to date yourself, would YOU be interested in you?
Seriously. Let that sink in and then really reflect on that question.
Think about it this way…no matter what your status is (“in a relationship” or not, married or not, etc.), are you the kind of person that you would be interested in? Would others find you interesting?
If not…why not?
If you think you’re exactly the kind of person you’d date, mate, marry, etc., perfect. That’s how you should feel!
But even if that’s true for you, take a moment to reexamine who you are, what makes you tick and what makes you wonderful. Why? The more you’re rock solid on this front, the less likely you’ll tolerate the garbage that the haters and trolls of the world dish out.
BUT if you think there’s nothing (or nothing much) that’s awesome about you, press pause on the playlist of life and ponder why this isn’t so. Don’t go run off and look at something else to hide away from your personal truth, girl!
It’s time to make peace with being self-aware.
Ask yourself as calmly as possible why it is that you feel you’re not awesome and interesting.
Don’t be Debbie Downer about this; be as analytical as possible. Simply consider what works for you and what doesn’t work for you. If you inject too much drama and emotion in the process you’ll just marinate in misery, and nobody wants that!
You’re smart. You’re smart enough to read this post, so you’re smart enough, girl! And if you’re so inclined, you can always be smarter!
You’re interesting to someone–a loving family member, best friend, neighbor, a non-bestie type of friend. What do they like about you? If they have a point, give yourself some credit.
BUT if you’re telling yourself that you’re not interesting to a single solitary soul, then ask yourself this:
What can you do, what can you change, what can you try that would take you out of the slump or rut you’re in to become a more interesting and worthy person?
Then whip out your calendar, and start making dates with yourself. Plan to take yourself out on a regular basis and have a good time!
Seriously!
Whatever it is that you were born to be, meant to be, or at the very least interested in experimenting with…it’s time to start making dates with yourself to actually go and do those things. Experience them! Try them! And…why not…enjoy them! Plan some interesting, fun and creative dates that speak uniquely to you and go collect some wonderful life experiences that way!
Life is not a dress rehearsal.
Life’s all about your attitude and your experiences, and your attitude dictates a lot about the experiences you’re going through.
You can decide today to change your ways, mix it up, take a risk and–gently, intelligently–push your comfort zone boundaries, even if it’s one baby step at a time, to live in harmony with your WHY and achieve more of your S.M.A.A.R.T. goals.
Make dates with yourself and have them be fun. Your relationship with yourself is still a relationship where you should invest at least the same effort into it as you would your relationship with your spouse/significant other, your friends, your relatives, etc.
Something interesting happens when you do this.
You smile more, you enjoy life more, and you loosen up and simply exude more soul satisfaction. Of course you do.
How can your life not be more satisfying when you live this way?
Dating yourself, loving yourself and having fun while enjoying your own company is something that will seep out of your pores, which makes you more attractive to others. People are mammals, mammals are animals and animals can smell fear just as much as they can confidence and joy.
So remember, the most important human relationship you could ever have is with yourself. Love yourself. Respect yourself. Date yourself. Adore yourself.
You deserve it!
For more advice about loving awesome Y-O-U, try the book, You Are a Badass: How to Stop Doubting Your Greatness and Live an Awesome Life, by Jen Sincero, available on Amazon.
