Relationship Upgrade: 3 Tips to Woo YOU
OK, wait. You’ve certainly heard of dating advice when it comes to starting a new relationship with someone else…but does that advice work when it comes to improving a relationship with…yourself?
You bet it does!
Here’s 3 tips when it comes to dating advice that translates well in both situations, and you’re well advised to start employing this stuff on Y-O-U, ASAP.
First: Listen.
Everyone wants to communicate with someone who’s a good listener. That means you don’t just passively hear what the other person is saying, you actively process it and it has meaning to you. You’d do this with Mr. or Ms. Right in a second, and if they stopped talking, you’d likely keep asking them questions to keep the dialogue rolling so the date doesn’t end so fast. Right?
Do this for yourself, too!
If you have thoughts or feelings, no matter what they are, instead of suppressing them listen to them. Process them. Honor them. Then roll with it—keep asking yourself more questions to explore the topic or topics more.
Keep that internal dialogue rolling so the relationship you have with yourself can grow stronger. Every relationship involves give and take and must involve honesty or it’s not healthy. When you woo YOU, it’s no exception to this rule. Give yourself a break and take every opportunity to be honest with yourself.
Second: Be Yourself.
You can try to pretend you’re someone you’re not to pique someone else’s interest, but the moment they see who you really are, more likely than not, they’re gone. Nobody likes a fake—not even a well-meaning one. (See the first tip; honesty is key to a healthy relationship).
The same goes for your relationship with yourself. Don’t try to look or act like someone else. Be you and enjoy the heck out of it. When you try to fit in you’ll never stand out; you’re not living your truth and no wonder you’re not happy at the end of the day.
Third: Be Positive and Diplomatic.
Nobody but nobody wants to be with someone who has only two modes of conversation: sad and mad. No one who’s healthy wants to date a killjoy or a Negative Nelly. No matter how pretty a chick may be on the outside, when she’s ugly on the inside she eventually hits the cutting room floor like dozens of people before her. Looks will only take you so far.
So stop being a turnoff with yourself, let alone other people. Debbie Downer is not a turn-on. When you’re negative, cynical, doubtful or critical, it just sucks the joy out of everything.
Try the opposite for a while and throw yourself into it—be positive, diplomatic, patient, open and accepting. You’ll enjoy your own company and the filter through which you look at life will lighten up along with your new attitude.
You’ll be more inspired to live in harmony with your WHY through the achievement of your S.M.A.A.R.T. goals.
For more inspiration on how to love the most important person in your life, try the book, Love Yourself Like Your Life Depends on It, by Kamal Ravikant, available on Amazon.
