4 Steps to Nullify Fear So You Don’t Settle!
Settle? NEVER! Never settle! When it comes to your life, personally and professionally, you should never ever settle for anything less than the best!
There’s nothing more heartbreaking than to see a woman absolutely kill herself to provide her very best in the personal and/or professional arena, only to find that she unnecessarily settles for less than she deserves in terms of an outcome.
But why on Earth does anyone ever do such a thing?
The answer can be distilled down to one word: FEAR.
In order to push past your comfort zone in order to keep moving forward in life, you have to engage in sparring matches with fear. If you keep doing the same thing, you’re going to keep getting the same results. If you settle for less than the best, you’re simply making a statement to God/the Universe that you’re afraid to ask for more and that you don’t even deserve to receive more in the first place. You need to stop settling or you’ll never achieve your S.M.A.A.R.T. goals or, ultimately, live in harmony with your WHY.
So how to overcome fear so that you can, at the very least, stop settling in both the personal and professional arenas of life? Here’s a four-step formula to do so:
Step One: Acknowledge that fear is a normal emotion, but accept that you’re going to have to spar with it every single day from now on.
This sounds scary, but Step Two is why you shouldn’t sweat it!
Step Two: Gain self-awareness in terms of where the fear’s coming from, so that you can spar more intelligently with it.
Understand that you’re never going to make fear disappear; it’s always there! But if you learn where the fear comes from, you can gain important insights to will you get better traction on things with more successful action that’s tailored to neutralize your fear(s).
Does this mean that you need a life coach? A psychiatrist or a social worker? Or both?
Probably both…but that’s okay. You’re no different from anyone else in terms of needing assistance; what will make you different is whether or not you choose to help yourself. If your fears are great, you likely need to go this route.
Step Three: Learn how to pivot away from negative, fearful thoughts to more positive, productive ones.
This is a habit that will take time to develop, but like any habit, the more you do it the more embedded it becomes. So be patient. This way, when you’re tempted to settle on anything out of fear of having nothing, you’ll be able to pivot away from mindsets that don’t serve you.
Remember, the word fear is also treated as an acronym: False Evidence Appearing Real. Many times this is exactly the deal! We often convince ourselves of something due to being motivated by fear; meanwhile that “something” might just not be true…at all!
Step Four: Make a list of your strengths and positive attributes and keep them with you in some form at all times.
Crib notes as to your awesomeness will make for great ammunition against your fears and doubts. Instead of dealing with false evidence appearing real, you can provide yourself with evidence that is real and push ahead to get what you truly deserve for a change! Have a hard time thinking of what’s great about yourself? That’s where your Dream Team can come in handy.
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Need more assistance in terms of overcoming your fears? Try the book, Feel The Fear And Do It Anyway: Dynamic Techniques for Turning Fear, Indecision and Anger Into Power, Action and Love, by Susan Jeffers, Ph.D., available on Amazon.
