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Sensitive Souls Need QTIPs

Ever hear of the acronym “QTIP”?  It stands for Quit Taking It Personally.  If you’re a sensitive soul, this is mighty good advice.

When the baseball game of life throws you a curveball, it might shake your game and that’s okay. Don’t stay shaken, though.  Brush off the irritation or challenge and keep moving forward. QTIP is the short code necessary to keep programming the life of your dreams so that you’re living in harmony with your WHY.

You may be a sensitive soul who finds this advice easy to read but hard to apply.  Look at things this way, though:  just like you’re the star of the show of your life 24/7/365, everyone else is the star of their own show.  Why is this important?  It drives home a critical point:  You’re not the center of the universe, so not everything that happens is a direct reflection on you.

QTIP is a reminder to you to stop being so sensitive; therefore please don’t sweat someone else’s negativity…it may have nothing to do with you at all.  You may have been in the wrong place at the wrong time.  The performance of others is not automatically a mirror of your efforts, so don’t jump to conclusions and end up marinating in misery when it may not be necessary in the first place.

Whenever you do or say anything, just remind your sensitive self that you can’t control the entire outcome.  Sure, life’s all about risks and you should take calculated risks to reduce your risk of failure and increase your odds of success.

But at the end of the day, there’s only so much you can do.  Brush off the “analysis paralysis” and make a move.  Avoid the temptation to be so sensitive to everything because you’ll end up doing nothing.  Resolve to learn from whatever happens, even if there’s an epic fail.  Just know that you did your level best, then pull an Elsa and let it go.

Being sensitive to the extreme can be toxic.  If you can control over anything, it’s your own environment.  Not just your physical environment, mind you.  You also control the environment of your mind, which affects your beliefs, thoughts and actions.  Strive to make that environment the best it can be.

Granted, when someone else comes into your sphere of influence, they bring with them their own beliefs, thoughts and actions.  They have their own outside factors that they encounter before they even reach your personal space.  Therefore, you might be overly sensitive to their words and deeds when they may not be acting negatively toward you directly, but in general–and lucky you got caught in the crossfire.

Don’t read into things, please.  Stop being so hyper-sensitive.  It does you no good.

Don’t let someone else contaminate you with their bad moods.  Someone else’s mayhem and foolishness may cause you to flinch reflexively and that’s natural, but it should slide right off of you (the sooner the better). If you’re a super-sensitive person, this a goal you need to work towards.  Enlist the assistance of various members of your Dream Team to expedite things.

Hidden benefit to QTIP?  When it’s clear that you aren’t easily shaken, the bullies and trolls of life who meant for you to take things personally get bored and move on to easier prey.

Want to work on getting thicker skin?  Try the book, The Highly Sensitive Person:  How to Thrive When the World Overwhelms You, by Elaine N. Aron, Ph.D., available on Amazon.

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