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Love on Valentine’s Day: Self-Love Is the Best Love

 

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Love the One You’re With–YOU!

Love.  It’s a heavily charged word.  And Valentine’s Day brings love to the forefront.  Are you solo or part of a duo?  Either way…YOLO!
 
You Only Live Once.  Valentine’s Day isn’t a day to grieve if you’re not currently “in a relationship” or otherwise engaged or married.
 
It may sound trite, but you’re alive and that’s something to celebrate.  You’re someone who should recognize your own self-worth–for you ARE worthy–and you should celebrate that, too.
 
If you believe in God, you’re a child of His, and He loves you, even if you’re somehow convinced that no one else does.
 
If you’re an atheist, you may not believe in His love, but no matter what you should have love for your own sweet self!
 
For those who are solo on this day, instead of turning it into a cross on which you nail yourself for being single, you should turn it into a meditation on all those who DO love you for who and what you are.  Quite frankly, everyone–even those happily paired with someone else–should do this!
 
Come up with a list of everyone who you know loves you.  Does this list include parents?  Children?  Other relatives?  Friends from childhood?  Friends from college (or other levels of higher education)?  Friends from jobs past and/or present?  Good neighbors?  Think of everyone who currently touches your life–who’s in there?
 
And at the TOP of this list would be God if you’re religious or spiritual…with YOU as a close second.  If God’s not your thing, then you should be at the top of this list.
 
If you’re not first/second on this list…why not?
 
There’s a quote that says, “You’re not just my friend, you’re my love.  You’re not just my love, you’re my heart.  You’re not just my heart, you’re my life.  You’re not just my life, you’re my everything.”
 
Now take a moment and reflect:  why doesn’t this quote stand for how you feel about yourself?  Because how you feel about yourself in turn influences your WHY and the S.M.A.A.R.T. goals you’ve set to achieve that WHY.
 
Seriously, whether they’re solo or part of a duo, everyone should be challenged on Valentine’s Day, which revolves around love, to examine every nook and cranny having do with one of the most important loves of all–self love.
 
You have to know that you only live once.  Why not make this trip a worthwhile one, where you focus on loving yourself no matter how many other people love you, regardless of whether you’re solo or part of a dynamic duo?
 
Why not look at all of the reasons why you think others love you and come up with a list of all the traits you feel others value in you.  What traits do you value most about yourself?  What ones need to be improved?  What ones are perfectly fine, just the way they are?
 
Always remember, YOU are your own friend, your own love, your own heart, your own life, your own everything.
 
You carry yourself around 24/7, so you’d better love yourself an entire metric ton.  You’ll enjoy the trip of your life better if you do, no matter which mode you’re flying in!
 
If Valentine’s Day rolls around and you’re flying solo in terms of a committed relationship, know that you’re enough and hang with those who can reflect that back on you best.
 
If you’re part of a duo on Valentine’s Day?  Know that you’re enough and that you just so happen to be with someone else who feels that way, too.  Good for you.  But never be more worried about their love for you than the love you have for yourself.
 
Why?
 
You’re the only human being who’s with yourself every single moment of every single day.  Resolve to make the next year one where you’re investing time and energy romancing your own soul.  Because honestly, you ARE your everything, literally and figuratively.  Everyone else is just along for the ride, for however long it lasts.
 
Go make it a fun ride.  On Valentine’s Day and always.  XOXOXO
Try the book, The 5 Love Languages: The Secret to Love That Lasts, by Gary Chapman, available on Amazon.
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